Perspectives On Your Self-Identity
Consult not your fears but your hopes and your dreams.
Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential.
Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in,
but with what it is still possible for you to do.
Pope John XXIII

The unifying theme of True Self Trap concerns life-changing perspectives on your self-identity. The words from Pope John XXII are not about religious belief. Rather they offer great wisdom about the power of perspective to change your life.

In this case, the power of perspective derives from looking forward rather than looking backwards. Instead of thinking about past fears, frustrations, and failures, you look forward to how your life could change in the future.

The significant word is potential. Potential is what is possible. Its root meaning is power. Think of this. Whatever you did or didn't do in the past, as a human being you have far more potential power than you realize:

  • Do you dream of living a happier and more successful life?
  • Do you want to discover potential abilities that you don’t know you have?
  • Do you want to overcome limiting beliefs about what kind of future you can create?

True Self Trap is for people who are willing to change their focus from past fears, frustrations, and failures to discover and explore future possibilities. It's for seekers who have tried all kinds of self-help methods to overcome limiting beliefs but have never quite managed to achieve their dreams.

True Self Trap offers a different perspective than most self-help methods. It invites you to think differently about your "true self." It raises the question:

Is your quest to find your "true self" a trap that prevents you from living the life you desire to live?

True Self Trap

True. Self. Trap. These three words are a potent blend of beliefs. Taken one at a time, each word has its own meanings. Belief is a critical component of your answers to these questions:

  • Who do you believe you are?
  • Why do you believe you are alive?
  • What do you believe about the meaning of your life?
  • Do you believe that you are on Earth to fulfill some purpose? 
  • Do you believe that you had a past before this life?
  • Do you believe that you will have a future after this life?

What other questions would you add to this list? 


Let’s begin with beliefs about the word Self. As humans, we are Self-conscious beings. The capitalization emphasizes that you have a unique Self. By definition, your unique Self is different from from all other Selves who have ever lived, who are living now, and will live in the future. This is Google's definition of self :

A person's essential being that distinguishes them from others, especially considered as the object of introspection or reflexive action.

Your essential being makes you unique. So, what is your essence? This is Google's definition of essence

Your essence is the intrinsic nature or indispensable quality of something, especially something abstract, that determines its character.

Varying beliefs about how each person has a unique Self are deeply embedded in human consciousness. We are a species of living beings who have beliefs and live our lives based on our own beliefs: 

  • We make religions with our beliefs.
  • We deny religions with our beliefs. 
  • We make philosophies with our beliefs.  
  • We make scientific claims with our beliefs.
  • We identify our Selves with our beliefs.

And when we can no longer believe what we were taught to believe, we seek new beliefs that answer our questions and give our lives meaning. 

True Self

When you add the word True to the claim that your Self is uniquethe questions become more complicated:

  • If you have a  unique True Self, do you also have a False Self that is not truly You?
  • How do you know the difference between your True Self and your False Self?

Once again, it's a matter of what you believe to be true that defines the difference between what you define as your True Self and your False Self.

True Self Trap

When you add the word Trap to True Self, the questions become even more complicated:

  • What is the connection between the idea of a True Self and the idea of a Trap?
  • Does the idea of a True Self Trap sound too negative?
  • Does this idea describe the way you feel about your life?
  • Do you feel trapped in your effort to find your True Self?
  • Are you trying to set yourself free from your False Self?

 Your answers to these questions are deeply rooted in your beliefs about who you are, what you are, and why you exist.

Your Invitation to Living a Better Life

The purpose of True Self Trap is not to offer dogmatic answers but to ask questions about what you believe about who you are. If you feel trapped in an unhappy and unsuccessful life, or if you strive to be happier and more successful than you are, I invite you to think carefully about what you believe about your Self and why you believe it.

Topics are:

Perspectives on Self-Identity: How changing how you think about your self-identity opens up potential you didn't know you have.

Perspectives on Critical Thinking: How critical thinking can be the single most important factor to create the life you would love to live.

Perspectives on Hero's Journey Stories: How hero's journey stories can teach you how to solve your life problems.   

Perspectives on Life Change: How efforts to find your "True Self" can produce a discontented sense of self.


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